Licensed Clinical Psychologist
What does our bad habit or self-defeating behavior do for you? This paradoxical question and its gutsy answer helps you let go of a self-defeating habit and find a new way.
Yes, whatever you do has a purpose, or you wouldn't do it - right?
The point is that whatever you do that gets you into trouble does a whole, whole lot for you. When you take time to write down seriously all the benefits, you will need more than a page.
Let's say you procrastinate and you are really good at it. Here are just a few emotional traps:
 |
| Choices |
- You don't have to risk criticism (fear)
- You live in glorious possibilities (hope)
- You are saving up a "good" experience (secure)
- You have a sense of freedom in not-doing (self-satisfaction)
- You don't have to face your limitations (anxiety)
- You don't risk defeat (abuse)
- You don't have to look at "what comes after that (carefree)
This self-examination can be difficult or easy, depending, but it has been a most empowering exercise for everyone. We are amazed at what our bad habit has been up to, and it is often clear what we must do to change it. And find emotional freedom.
Are you tempted to try this out?
About Dr. Raynard
Dr. Richard Raynard is a licensed clinical psychologist with 35 years experience resolving a broad range of emotional problems. As a cognitive-behavioral therapist who has specialized in anxiety and phobic disorders since 1980, he has spent the last 35 years fulfilling his life-long desire to explore and define the true purpose of emotions and how people can easily use emotions to create meaning and satisfaction in their lives. Dr. Raynard's series of books on emotions can be found on Amazon.com. His other books include Don't Panic, and Anxiety & Panic Medications.
No comments:
Post a Comment